The quieter you become the more you can hear ~ Ram Dass



Showing posts with label life and death. Show all posts
Showing posts with label life and death. Show all posts

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

2014 Blech!

So far, I'm not too keen on 2014.  Oh, there have been some good days, but there have been some really sucky bad ones too...

Less than 2 weeks before my mother passed, my dinner friend the one that had kidney cancer died.  She was the one that set up the whole cottage weekend.  The Tuesday after our weekend, she went into the hospital for pain management.  Then she went to a palliative/hospice place.  Then she went into just hospice. 

While we had a good time when we were at the cottage, there were a few times that were heartbreaking.  When we got there the first day she slept the whole time until Saturday morning.  Saturday, she was like a different person and then she was a little shaky in the evening.  Sunday the day we were going to leave, she decided we should go out to breakfast.  We all got dressed.  One friend went to get the vehicle.  I and another friend started helping our friend go to the steps.  She put one foot on the step and collapsed.  I had to run into the cottage and get a kitchen chair.  We put her on it and had to carry her back in.  We decided to not go out.  When it was time for us to go home, one of the gals called the main place and asked for a maintenance person to come in case we needed help.  Sure enough, when our friend got to the first step again she collapsed.  Luckily, the guy came and helped get her up the steps and into the vehicle.  It was so sad.

When I think of every  thing she went through over the months, I wonder which is better going quick like my mom or like her where you have a chance to say whatever needs to be said to the person.  And then I think probably neither. 

Friday, December 14, 2012

Broken Hearted

What is this world coming to when children go to elementary school and then don't get to come home? 

My thoughts are with those in Connecticut. 

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Neighbors


I just want to warn you before you read this, there are some very disturbing things involved in this post about how the neighbor lady passed away.  It is rather shocking.  Just be forewarned if you continue.

When we moved to our home, the neighbors on our driveway side were the original owners of their home.   

We always had our ups and downs with them.  They never had any children.  When my son was little and his friends would come over they were always pretty good about throwing the ball over the fence when the kids would accidentally get it in their yard.

Although there were times that they would get mad at us and stop talking to us.  We would never know what happened but eventually we would start talking to them and all would be well.

They always wanted to take us out to eat and we did go a few times.  They also came over for Thanksgiving when we had it here and would celebrate with our family.  They knew my mom and dad and always enjoyed talking with them.  They even came to my son's high school graduation party.  

As my son got older, they started to get mad at us more often.  I think because my son and his friends used to come and go all hours of the night and their bedroom was by our driveway. I used to holler at them all the time but you know kids that age they just don't think.

The winter before she died, she called up during the night and told me if we didn't stop all the car door slamming she was going to call the police.  That was the last time I spoke with her.

The following spring one day, there was still snow on the ground, I was looking out the front window and I told my husband someone must have thrown garbage in the neighbors apron of the driveway.  When I looked again, I saw it was the neighbor lady laying there.  Her husbands car was parked in the front of the house.  I gave my husband a blanket and told him to put it on her.  (I remembered that from TV your supposed to cover someone so they don't go in shock).  He ran out then I ran out.  The girl next door had already called for an ambulance and was yelling at the neighbor guy.  

To this day, I'm not exactly sure what happened.  She used to walk to the end of the driveway and he would stop and she would get in.  Somehow she ended up in the apron and he ran over her with the car.  He said he thought it was a snowbank.  OMG, it was just terrible.  He kept asking if she was going to be all right.  We think she was already gone.  The police came and put crime tape all around.  I really couldn't tell them anything because I only saw the aftermath.  The girl next door said she saw him run her over and was yelling from her house to tell him to stop but he couldn't hear her.  The neighbor girl never saw though how she ended up on the ground.  The lady did have heart issues and was in the hospital numerous times for it.  They said she died because of the heart issues but I'm not convinced that's the truth.  They did take away the neighbor guys license for a while but then gave it back.  I can't even explain how many months I couldn't get the image out of my mind.  I had never seen anything like that, I hope I never do again.  

I was very surprised when he remarried.  I thought for sure when she died he would shortly after.  They were such a loving couple.  In the summer, they would always be sitting in the backyard and talking to each other.  My husband and I would think what do they have so much to say to each other after all those years of being married.

I think he was close to 90 when it happened and he is 96 and still going strong.