The quieter you become the more you can hear ~ Ram Dass

Sunday, September 8, 2013


I started reading a breast cancer board in 2004.  Around 2006, a guy started posting on the caregiver's board about his friend.  They were life long friends.  In fact, she was his best friend. 

He was married and had a child.  His friend, Jill, had been married but her husband died and she had a child as well.

Jeff came to the caregiver's board because Jill had breast cancer.  He went on and on describing what was happening until her death.  Jill wanted him to take her daughter and adopt her which Jeff and his wife did.  To say it was heartbreaking reading about this vibrant woman and her deterioration was an understatement.

Although he never asked for money, he did receive a lot of support from the board.  He also offered some as well.

Another blog I read, put me onto the fact that he had started a blog.  I read it and followed his life and that of Jill's daughter.  He didn't write a lot and one day the blog was just gone.

A few days ago, I went over to the support board as I only read it every few months now and not all the topics.  I come to find out that it was all a hoax.  His friend, Jill, the daughter, even the things he wrote on his own personal blog. There was a link to the people that discovered it was made up and who he really is.  Although he apologized (said he got carried away basically) he still denies they have his correct name.  

I'm aware that people do this kind of stuff but it still stuns me especially the fact that he made up the fact that he knew someone that had cancer and died.

I hope there is a special place for people like him.  I'm going to be much more suspicious when some people delete their blogs.    


Cheryl said...

That is horrible and sick. I know there's a mental illness that manifests itself in people engaging in behaviors like this to get attention. Whatever the cause, this guy needs help, whether for an illness or to learn how to be a decent human being.

My name WAS Female, I shit you not! said...

Unfortunately, there are and always will be those kind!


Claudia Schlottman said...

What kind of creep does a thing like that? I'm still so trusting, even at 65, that I could also be duped by this guy. BUT I'd rather be this way than cynical. Glad to be back reading your blog!